“I’m really good at reading people … I know you are a traitor! It has to be you, it’s the feeling I have with you, your behaviour today round the castle … it’s got to be you!”
“I’ve never been more confident, more convinced … they blinked weirdly, they have to be a traitor.”
I’m watching The
Traitors of course and amazed at how the faithfuls become so completely convinced they are right when at the round table and deciding what name to put on their slate.
Have you been there? You know you are right, unwavering conviction, evidence? Irrelevant! There is a very particular energy that comes with being completely convinced you are right. Then the moment comes when you realise … oops! The energy of feeling right, changes when you discover you are
wrong. A mix of mild embarrassment, disbelief, a quiet internal rewind of everything you confidently said out loud. And sometimes there can be a wobble in confidence — can we trust our instincts, maybe stop talking now!
But being wrong shouldn’t mean we lack confidence. It means we are engaged, invested, paying attention. Confidence shouldn’t disappear when we get things wrong, it just shifts and softens a little, making room for more information.
It
happens in movement too. We feel aligned, strong and steady, until we see it in a mirror, or we get a nudge which shows us something different — have a look at my shoulders when we are next in class together! I’m sure they are level and even…
But don’t think of it as failing. Instead think of it as feedback, because the real strength isn’t about always being right — it’s about being able to notice, adjust, laugh, and carry on … not beating ourselves up.
So
if The Traitors has taught me anything, it is this: conviction is entertaining, certainly makes great TV, and being wrong is surprisingly good for us — specially when we can meet it with curiosity and a sense of humour.
Have a great week everyone. Keep looking, moving, and feeling good.
With love and support,
Jane xxx
