This time of year lots of parents are heading into a summer awaiting exam results with their kids, or degree results for their older kids. A lot of stress can come from this period of time, either because your kids know exactly what they want to do, but it all relies on them getting certain
results, OR they simply just don’t know what to do next.
I used to look at parents of those kids who knew exactly what they wanted to do, with envy, it seemed they had it all sorted and, providing they got the grades, they knew what the next 3/4 years held in store for them.
For me with my son — who will be known as George, because that’s his name — he didn’t know what he wanted to do. He had already changed his mind during his A-level
year and swapped to different A-levels after his A(s) levels, which meant an extra year at school to complete them.
In the end, he went for an apprenticeship with a local company, and worked in a financial company for 18 months. Unfortunately for him, the company ran into their own financial problems and once his apprenticeship was up they got rid of him. On the surface it looked like a wasted 18 months, however, in that time George was able to earn some money and
save it, and also it gave him space and time to decide what he really wanted to do.
Last year he completed his degree in Design, Engineering and Innovation and was awarded a 2:2 Hons Degree! He did his degree with the OU but completed it in 3 years, and just did odd jobs to finance himself during this time. He then decided to start his own business, because he wanted to design and build pieces of furniture using naturally sourced materials. You can see some example of
his work in the picture here.
His business is in its early stages and he is still living at home, which I am sure will change at some point … but I wanted to share this little part of my life with you, because as parents all we really want for our kids is for them to be happy and fulfilled. When George was 18/19 and just finishing his A-levels, I felt very stressed about what was coming next for him because he just didn’t know what to do. As hard as it was for me, I
decided to trust him and trust the decisions he made, and I let him find his own way … and, boy oh boy, has he found his own way.
He absolutely loves working and designing, he particularly loves working with wood, and the joy this is bringing into his life is fantastic. I want this to be successful for him and I will continue to support him, because he is working so hard to make it successful.
So I suppose, I just wanted to try and reassure
those parents out there who have kids who either don’t know what they want to do, or who know but may not get the exam results they need, that given time, support, love and trust they will find their own way…