After a somewhat stressful week in the house of Thomas/Brindley, we felt as if we limped over the finish line into the weekend. Keith had spent much of the week in Sunderland looking after his Mum whose health has taken a downward turn, and I had been trying to support my sister and
brother-in-law as they face a big change in their lives.
My brother-in-law has been gradually falling victim to Alzheimers/Vascular Dementia over the last couple of years, and recently this had taken a bit of a nose dive, which has left the family with lots of questions to be answered in terms of care and support for both him and my sister, and their two boys.
They have been constantly in my thoughts this week as I feel so desperately sad that my brother-in-law, who was an extremely intelligent man, with a great sense of humour, is now suffering and has become a very different person. My sister is being faced with some immeasurably difficult decisions which are having an affect on her health, and the boys are having to watch their parents going through this, and trying to support them in every way they can. Additionally sad is that my
brother-in-law and sister recently became grandparents and it seems totally unfair that their granddaughter will never experience the love and fun that her Grandad would undoubtedly have brought into her life. It feels like this has been stolen away from them all.
I am sure that a lot of you who attend our classes have been through, or are going through, similar life experiences. And it is the ‘life’ we need to focus on when things feel so terribly difficult. We have to focus on the life that we have shared, both happy and sad, good and bad, and we have to focus on the here and now, the life that we have now, and how we want that life to be in the future.
We cannot second guess what will happen in the future, we can only know what is happening right here, right now, today. So this is the life we have to live and not let the now get stolen away from us.
So as we stand on the start line of a new week, I am hoping for a smoother race, with a few less obstacles, or at least no extra ones thrown at us to distract us from trying to live the best life we can, supporting our families along the way.